GAP

I won't be wrong when I say that parents and children now have become enstranged. It's like none knows the other anymore. Strangers under one roof. Aliens to each other. It's sadening really. I mean, your first ally's supposed to be your parents and the other way round. 
Conflicts between parents and their children are rising so fast that it seems to be the norm. It's not surprising nowadays for a kid to scream and shout back at their parents just because they're not comfortable with the set rules. It goes without saying that such a relationship is toxic to both parties; depression for the parent wondering where they went wrong and the little one going astray.
But if we sit down and find the root cause of all this, I believe we can curve our way out of this hole. It needs to be realised that the blame falls on both sides and has to be rectified. 
Has it ever occurred to you that the main reason is the cloud of an unpleasant family history looming over them? Home may be where the heart is but it's also where the pain is; Be it a divorce, sexual and/or physical and mental abuse and so much more. This causes the children to curl in their shells, aloof and withdrawn from their parents without them, parents, not knowing what went wrong. For the kids, reaching an age where they can leave home feels like liberation from a dark, dark place. Such have little desire to relate to their parents and thus the two parties 
fall out.
Parents always feel like they have to make all life changing decisions for their children and most fail to break the habit at that certain point when the kid comes of age. This tends to make the parents overly intrusive in their children's lives creating a sense of discomfort to the children thus they decide to minimize contact with them. Over time, they become strangers to each other.
Youth take part in many activities which may seem disappointing to their parents. The shame that accompanies such behaviour leads to the kids staying away from their parents for fear of the wrath; especially when the parents have high expectations from their children.
Its only humane that we all have different perceptions and ideologies on stuff and not see eye to eye when it comes to certain topics. This may bring a lot of tension between parents and their children. For example, at times, something as trivial as supporting different football teams can bring a feud so big that children decide to stop associating with their parents. Other aspects come in the dress code, foods they take( Imagine fighting with your parents due to food😦😱. It happens apparently) and so many others.
Failure of parents and kids engaging due to work and school plays a major role too. Nowadays, parents rarely, if not never, get to spend time with their children due to work demands. Such kids are left in the hands of babysitters and other family members, to whom they grow close, creating a large gap between them and the parents. The children most often feel neglected, as much as their parents are working to provide a betterment for them. Again, sometimes the children get too caught up in their peer groups that they have no time to sit and converse with their parents. After a "Hey, Hey" conversation, nothing else comes up between them and each goes about their own doings.
Saddening I know😔.
Last but not least, we have parents who restrict their children to the point the kids end up loathing them. Ever heard of stories where kids leave the room and keep mum once a parent arrives? Such is our life nowadays. How do you expect such a youngster to communicate well with their parents if they are afraid of them that much? 

However, we should not despair. The worst has been done and all we can do is try to repair what little we can. Parents should always keep the door open and so the kids. As much as some instances happen and may not be forgettable, they should be willing to move on and jump over the hurdles between them and reconcile while they still have the chance. We don't want anyone lamenting after either is gone now, do we?
Don't give up reaching out. Always make the first move even when your attempts are rebuffed.
Face to face contact, where wounds are still fresh, should be avoided at all costs. Let each other cool for a while before resuming or rather trying to resume the communication. This allows for both parties to rerun the past events and figure out where they each went wrong. 
Alot can be done to fill the gap present between parents and their children, all needed is patience and time.